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I recently discovered a great technique from Mo Gawdat on how to get into a state of happiness within 7 seconds.  I’ve been using it with clients with great results in my Distance Healing Sessions.

Before I tell you the technique, I will define happiness and unhappiness.

Happiness occurs when life meets or beats your expectations of an experience or event. 

For example, is you go out for dinner and the meal you have is as good as you expected it to be or better.

Whereas Unhappiness occurs when an experience or event doesn’t meet your expectations. 

An example of unhappiness: you go out for dinner and the meal is worse that you expected.

The common denominator with happiness and unhappiness are thoughts.

80% of unhappiness is due to negative thoughts.

Consider when you feel unhappy as a survival mechanism and a signal to take specific actions if you want to return to happiness. 

The first thing to do is acknowledge you feel unhappy. 

The second thing is: What is the trigger? 

If it’s a situation in the world like a flood or war on the other side of the world.  Has your life changed at all from it?

If not, can you accept it?  And can you do anything about it? 

Ask yourself the questions: “What can I do about it, how can I make the world a better place from this situation that triggered my unhappiness or how can I become stronger from the situation?” 

These questions take you out the of emotional and stressful thoughts (feeling helpless/hopeless) into acceptance and or action thoughts.

When you discover the trigger of your unhappiness, ask yourself whether the thought is true or false? 

I work with many people that suffer from depression and anxiety.  Many of their feelings are the result of believing a lie that was either told to them when they were young, or they told themselves from a negative experience they had.

Have you ever been bullied by someone that resulted in you not feeling good about yourself and unloved.

If you continued to tell yourself the lie that you are not good enough and unloved it results in feeling more stressed and symptoms of chronic stress.

Chronic Stress Symptoms

• Easily triggered
• Emotional withdrawal
• Suppressing yourself
• Fearful of expressing yourself
• Shame
• Guilt
• Decreased immunity
• Chest tightness
• Trouble letting go
• Low energy
• Sleeping problems and insomnia
• Unfocused and cloudy thinking
• Changes in appetite
• Aches and pains
• Increase in alcohol and drug use

Diseases associated with chronic stress are linked to other conditions, both psychological and physical. These include:

• Hypertension, heart disease, obesity and metabolic syndrome, Type II diabetes, and arthritis
• Addiction to alcohol, nicotine and/or prescription drugs, and behavioral-related such as addiction to the internet, food, or gambling
• Mood disorders and anxiety disorders, which are common secondary diagnoses for people with chronic stress.

Hypertension, depression, addiction, and anxiety disorders are the conditions most related to chronic stress.

If you can relate to living in chronic stress, take the following steps to overcome it.

• Acknowledge your unhappy (negative feelings).
• Write out the thoughts you have that trigger your stress. 
• Ask yourself are the thoughts true or false?  (FYI: all thoughts of not being good enough and unlovable are a lie.) If they are false let them go by taking 10 deep breaths. Close your eyes, focus on the center of your chest, and say to yourself, “I release any lies that I tell myself that are not serving me in my highest and greatest good.”  Notice how you feel when you say this.  

By saying this prayer, you are giving your soul and God permission to cleanse the lies from you. 

• If it is True.  Ask yourself, “What can I do to fix it?”

This moves you into the problem-solving part of your brain and helps make you and the world a better place.

• If you can’t do anything about it and things can’t change.  Like someone dying in a car accident or stuck in traffic.  Ask yourself, “Can I accept the situation or experience and make my life better despite the problem."

Make sure that you go to happy and useful thoughts. 

If your thoughts aren’t useful, tell your brain not to give you thoughts that aren’t helpful. 

On average it takes 21 days to remove negativity and change the brain.  So be patient and persistent.

By investing 5-10mins into improving your mindset every day and how you interpret stress you will spend much more time feeling happy than you ever had before.

If you find that you need additional help overcoming chronic stress, I will gladly help you via Distance Healing Sessions.

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What would your life look like if you had more energy each day?

Here's a list of things that more energy does:

• You feel better
• You can adapt to stress easier
• It's easier to problem solve
• You're a better communicator
• You have a stronger memory
• Improved balance and coordination 
• You heal faster

What is something you notice when you have more energy?  Comment below.

4 Things that Help Increase Energy

• Get natural light exposure into your eyes 30-60mins after waking to increase morning cortisol. 
• Do light exercise like go for a walk, stretching, and or Qi Gong to warm up your core temperature.
• Delay caffeine intake 90-120mins after waking to avoid an afternoon crash.
• Do a morning meditation where you connect with God, Jesus and or the Holy Spirit and focus on at least 3 things you are grateful for to summon with a positive mindset. 

What is something you do to increase your energy? Comment below.

Have you ever felt stressed during traffic jam, gotten upset to the point of wanting to yell.  

This happens because your nervous system is conditioned to react stressfully in that situation. 

But what if you could respond differently.  Rather than freakout, take some deep breaths and realize “I’m a traffic jam, how can I make the best use of my time right now?”

By doing this you avoid excess stress and emotional pain, along with wasting energy on being unproductive.   In turn you make better use of your time and create more healthy energy for yourself.

Some things you can to are  call a friend, listen to a podcast or good music, tell yourself, “I love myself unconditionally,” or remind yourself how grateful you are to have a car. These are just a few examples.  There are a number of things you can do to increase your wellness during that time….

What is something you would do?

How do you Regulate the Nervous System?

• Practice

What are your stress triggers?

Take a moment and write them down.

Examples of Stress Triggers:

• Weather
• Politics
• Family members
• Loud noises
• Violence
• Certain smells
• Your work/job
• Travel
• The unknown
• Meeting new people
• Your health
• Money

How to Heal Stress Triggers

• Go to calm relaxing space like a quiet room or out in nature. 
• Take 10 deep breaths
• Get into a calm state of mind
• Close your eyes and visualize being in the situation that normally triggers you, but instead being calm and peaceful in it.
• See yourself handling the situation with ease. 

Example: see yourself having a positive interaction with the family member that normally stresses you out.  See yourself being present with them and listening to them.  See yourself articulating your thoughts and feelings in a calm manner to them. 

Practice doing this until you feel peaceful about the situation that used to stress you out. 

Don’t be surprised how good you feel in that situation next time you are in it. 

Do you suffer from sleeping problems like insomnia?  You definitely want to hear this.

The number one cause of insomnia is stress.  However, it’s not always clear as to what is causing the stress.

I’m going to help you figure that out.  Along with what you can do to overcome the stress so you can sleep better at night and have more energy during the day. 

The top things you need to do to sleep better are:

• Remove electronic devices, such as TVs, computers, and smart phones, from your bedroom.
• Avoiding large meals, caffeine, and alcohol before bedtime.  No food 3hrs before bed and no caffeine 8hrs before bed because it can take up to 8hr to clear out of your body.   If you rely on caffeine for energy and can’t function without it comment before. 
• Get some exercise. Being physically active during the day can help you fall asleep more easily at night.
• Using room-darkening shades, earplugs, a fan, or other devices to create an environment that suits your needs.
• Do calming activities before bedtime, such as taking a bath or using relaxation techniques can promote better sleep.
• Spend time outside in natural sunlight during the day has been shown to improve sleep.

All the info you just read is all available through a quick Google search, however I find many people don’t want to make the changes necessary to improve their sleep. 

Here’s why…..

Food, caffeine, alcohol, and entertainment are providing the person with a feeling of pleasure. 

Are you someone that struggles with changing your lifestyle habits, even though you know they aren’t good for you and have a negative impact on your sleep?

#1 reason that stops a person that knows better is negative feelings about oneself.

Pray every day – Connect with Jesus Christ/God and ask for the strength and power to overcome your negative feelings.

Example of a prayer is: “Thank you Jesus for providing me the strength and energy to overcome the negative feelings I have about myself.”

Pray first thing in the morning and before bed for strongest impact. 

Next, connect with those negative feelings.  Ask yourself, why do I have these feelings? 

It’s important to be aware of why they are there, so you can deal with them accordingly. 

For example, if you have negative feelings about yourself due to feelings of guilt.  It’s important to forgive yourself for your past mistakes or failures.  If you need help forgiving yourself, ask Jesus for support.

Prayer: Thank you Jesus for giving me the strength to forgive myself for my past mistakes and failures. 

These types of prayer help you to surrender, so you can let go of the emotional pain limiting your life, stressing you out affecting yourself.

If negative feelings are not responsible for your struggles with stopping habits that keep you await at night. 

Ask yourself, “What feeling do I want more of.”  Often it is something very simple like comfort, joy, love or calmness. 

Use similar prayers as above to fill your soul with what you need to feel full.

Example of prayer: Thank you Jesus/God for giving me to strength to experience more calmness in my life. 

Find the prayers that work well for you and spend a few minutes doing them every day.  Overtime you will feel more enriched.

If you would like more help getting over your sleeping troubles I can help you through my Distance Healing Sessions. 

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In my last blog I wrote about 5 Biggest Obstacles that can stop you from achieving your health goals.  If you haven’t read it yet, click here.

In this blog I’m going to tell you how to overcome the Obstacle of Time when it's interfering with your health.

Not having enough time is one of the most common excuses people use as their reason for not being healthy.

I get it.  I've used the excuse of time many times.  But I realized that it wasn't helping me.  It was only holding me back.

Have you ever said:

• I don’t have enough time to exercise.
• I don’t have enough time to meditate.
• I don’t have enough time to prepare healthy meals.
• I don’t have enough time to go see a practitioner that will help me.

The real reason behind it if you use time as an excuse is you are not making the time.  And it likely you just haven’t developed the skill of how to best utilize your time. 

What if you had massive success doing what you need to do to achieve your health goals.  Would you make the time then?

If you feel short on time for health or want to make more time to create better health for yourself start with looking at where you could be wasting your time. 

How much time do you spend watching TV per day, scrolling social media, or some other form of entertainment that only gives you short term happiness.  But doesn’t move you any closer to your health goals?

The US average daily stats for watching TV, social media, gaming and browsing websites are:

• TV – 3hr 16min
• Social Media – 1hr 27mins
• Gaming – 1hr 46mins
• Browsing Websites – 51mins

That’s over 7hrs per day if someone is doing all these things.  Over 49hrs per week, over 196hrs per month and over 2352hrs per year. 

But say you are only consuming 1hr per day.  That’s 7hrs per week, 28hrs per month and 336hr per year. 

How different would your health be if you invested that time into your health (or another important goal)? 

Your time is more valuable than money. 

If you were offered $100million dollars, but you would have to die tomorrow would you take the money or would you want to live longer?

Leave a comment below with your answer.  But I’m guessing you would choose to live longer.

To value time, you must change your mindset of it. 

It can be difficult at first if this is a new perspective for you.  

To help, wake up each day and remind yourself, “I’m going to make the most of this day and my time.” 

To help with that write out WHY TIME is so valuable to you. 

Write out at the beginning of each week what are 1-2 most important things you want to do each day for your health and make sure you do those things within the first 2hrs upon waking.    

Once you develop the habit of this you will see how beneficial this is for you and the changes that come along with it. 

Comment below if you know what 1-2 of the most important things are for your health goals.

If you would like to learn more about how to better use your time to achieve your goals I recommend reading or listening to the audio book The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris.  It will help you develop the skills you need to better utilize your time and more.    

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I’ve decided to post about each of the 5 Biggest Obstacles separately to help with implementation. 

Next post will be about How to Overcome the Obstacle of Money if it is in the way of you achieving your health goals.  Stay tuned. 

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Do you have a big health goal you want to achieve?

But feel there is something getting in your way of achieving it?

You are not alone. 

As a teenager I wanted to learn how to heal myself because I had several symptoms that made me feel awful. 

Little did I know that this goal started shifting my life in a direction that I could have never imagined. 

Something you are likely aware of though, when you set goals, obstacles begin showing up because you start moving out of your comfort zone into the unknown.

I’ve learned that there are 5 Big Obstacles you want to be aware of, so you can deal with them if they arise.  

Knowing what the obstacles are and how to deal with them makes it much easier to overcome them.  Then you don’t get stuck or lose faith in yourself and give up on your health goals.   

Look at obstacles as an opportunity for growth.  On the other side of them is the thing you really want.

5 Big Obstacles that show up when pursuing your goals:

• Time – “Believing you don’t have enough time to do the thing you want.”
• Money – “Believing you don’t have enough money to purchase what you need.”
• Spouse – “My spouse won’t allow me or doesn’t support me going after goal.”
• Fear – shows up when you view your life from a place of lack, victimhood, doubt and or failure.
• Shame and Self-Doubt – this is signaling that past failures are controlling your reality. 

When I first wanted to go to Chinese Medicine College to become a TCM doctor my girlfriend at the time told me if you do that, I will break-up with you. 

She thought it was weird and gross and I allowed her opinion to influence me out of going at the time.  So, instead I signed up at the local community college to pursue a degree in Environmental Technologies.   

However, 1 month later we broke up.  I was already signed up for the Environmental program, but something felt off the whole time. 

When I began the program, I started getting a strong voice in my head saying, “YOU NEED TO GO TO CHINESE MEDICINE SCHOOL.” 

I tried to ignore the voice, but it kept getting louder and louder, until finally, after being in the program for just 4 days I told myself, “Enough, I will go to Chinese Medicine School!”

That day, I called the Chinese Medicine College and asked them if they had space for me. 

I was put through to the dean and he said “Yes, we have room for you.  Come in on Monday to start."    

In that moment a huge weight lifted off me.   

The first day I started everything felt right.  I knew I was in the right place, and it was one of the best choices I made for myself.  

From making that one choice it opened so many more doorways for me to improving my health, overcoming many symptoms, along with helping people all over the world.   

None of this would have happened if I didn’t take the first step.  Plus, I met Keri at Chinese Medicine College. 

Next week I’m going to release the info on how to work through the 5 Big Obstacles, so you can achieve your health goals easier.   Stay tuned…

Becoming clear on the things in your lives that are driving your body towards negative stress and less joy is huge for healing.

You may know right away what your top stressors are. However, if you don't, you may have gotten used to living on auto-pilot and may not even recognize that you have any stress at all.

Getting in touch with what is creating negative stress and less joy is crucial for your healing so that you can consciously choose to change it.

Below is a guided intuitive meditation.  I suggest getting quiet with yourself to ask your body what your biggest stressors are and what you can do to bring more ease, peace and joy into these areas of your life. Or, if you need to let these stressors go, what is blocking you from doing so?

Questions to Ask Yourself

• What areas of my life are holding stress for me? 
• What can I do to bring more peace and ease to these stressful areas of my life?
• Do I need to let them go?
• Do I need to do something different?
• What is my body asking for in these situations or stressful areas?
• What area of my body am I holding this stress?
• How do I release these stressors from the tissues, organs of my body?

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Numerous studies have proven the benefits of Positive aspects of regular meditation.

Few of them are,

• Lower blood pressure
• improved concentration
• decreased stress
• reduced anxiety and depression symptoms
• And many others also.

It has been proven that different types of meditation provide similar benefits in terms of physical or mental health. Senior Home Health Care Services is playing a vital role, keeping people mentally satisfied and relaxed with meditation.

1.  Better Focus and Concentration

Better focus on the present can be achieved by having mindfulness meditation which can also increase your concentration towards other daily life tasks.

A study was carried out by Harvard Medical School in 2011. They tried to find out the results of mindfulness meditation on your brain, and they were able to find a link between processing new information and mindfulness.

Positive results were achieved in which development in the brain's learning, memory & emotional regulation parts was found, and this research includes 17 people who had an eight-week meditation program.

2.  Strengthen Dignity and Cognizant

It is also found that discovering positive attributes of your personality and more profound self-reflection benefits or positive aspects of mindfulness meditation.

 Mindfulness helps increase self-awareness by increasing the ability to examine one's thoughts and feelings without judgment.

It can help the person having social anxiety, as per research at Stanford University. In Cognitive Psychotherapy Journal, a study was published in 2009, in which two months of meditation of 14 participants took place who was suffering from social anxiety. The results were terrific that improved self-esteem and decreased anxiety were reported after the program was completed.

3.  Reduce Stress

Cortisol can also be kept in control by mindfulness meditation. It is a stress hormone that keeps you in relaxation mode. 

Mindfulness meditation was an effective way to reduce stress in more than 200 studies back in 2013.

There is a meditation in which you keep on repeating sounds or words so that you can keep your self-focused which is known as Transcendental meditation, as a result of which you can achieve a level of stillness and stability.

 It was found that Support staff and teachers who were doing transcendental meditation could reduce their psychological distress in a study conducted in 2019.

To measure the participant's level of burnout, depression, and stress, researchers used stress scales. People who were doing meditation twice a day for 10-25 minutes over four months seven-step transcendental meditation course resulted in minimizing the stress and burnout.

4.  Manage Anxiety or Depression

You will be less likely to use your head on anxious thoughts that will increase your stress, and it can be controlled by having mindfulness meditation.

Jama Internal Medicine reported in 2014 that anxiety and depression could be controlled by mindful meditation, and it can be used for the treatment of mental illness.

The same study reported positive effects of mindfulness-based stress reduction therapy, which integrates the meditation of mindfulness. Using this therapy, a person can reduce the issues or problems like not having a night of proper sleep, less appetite, a bad mood, and calm their mind and other aspects of depression.

5.  Fight Addiction 

By having this meditation, a patient can control the brain's receptors linked with alcohol addiction & drug addiction to reduce the craving of these things. 

"That awareness is compelling because it can allow us to ride the urge or the craving… without getting overcome by it," Davidson says. "We can notice the urge, notice that it's there, but we don't have to give in to it."

It was discovered that mindfulness meditation could help prevent future relapse in patients with substance use disorder, as it generates therapeutic effects that help the brain regulate pleasure experiences.

6.  Control Pain

Doctors also say that mindful meditation is part of the extensive pain management plan. As a result of a study across 60 trials and more than 6500 participants, it was declared in 2020 that pain reduction was found in people who suffered from acute, post-surgical, and chronic pain.

7.  Boost Up Your Kindness and Loving Nature

Circuits that promote altruism decrease unexpressed or unconscious bias responsible for prolonging harms stereotypical, enhancing emotions of people get strengthen through behavior loving-kindness meditation.

To initiate a meditation of loving-kindness, you think of a loved one and wish them happiness. You can know to share this happiness with other people also.

You can use a simple phrase that you silently repeat to yourself, like 'may you enjoy happiness' as you hold that person in your mind. 

In a nutshell, Mental and physical health can have many benefits from meditation. If any person is willing to improve their focus, deal with depression, addiction, or chronic pain should experience it, and it is dead sure that they will have positive results.

This is something I have been doing for many years and I feel that it has been a huge factor in my development and nourishing of my healing abilities, along with the maintenance of my own health.

What I am referring to is Meditating with a Tree. 

You know that feeling when you go for a walk or spend time in a forest; how relaxed and balanced you feel during and after.

That is because you are taking in some of the healing energies available to you.  So, what if you took the time to place your hands on a healthy tree and allowed yourself to feel the energy that it wants to share with you on an even deeper level?

This is what I do.  More specifically, I ask if the tree has a message for me, if it has a healing for me and if it has anything it wants to share with me.

You see trees have spirits too, they are alive, and they communicate through frequency.  Once you attune to the frequency you can understand their language. But that is for another conversation. 

If you want to increase your life force, as in help your body be and feel healthier, heal faster from illnesses and injuries, become more adaptable to stress, increase your intuition and simple become more resilient I recommend doing this simple of act of Meditating with a Tree.

The act of Meditating with Trees has a long history and there are many great people throughout history that proclaimed they gained healing power and enlightenment via meditating with a tree.

Two specific people are Buddha and Jesus Christ. 

How I Meditate with a TREE 

The way I meditate with a tree is I look for a strong healthy tree somewhere where I will not be disturbed (this can even be in your own yard).  I stand in front of it placing my hands on the trunk in a comfortable location with my eyes closed.  I breath naturally and allow myself to feel the energy of the tree. 

The more you do this the more sensitive you become to the subtle energy of the tree. 

If you have never done this before I recommend using the same tree daily to develop a relationship with it.  You will be amazed that overtime you will feel the love from that tree before you even touch it because it will be projecting to you when you are close by and even from further distances. 

To help deepen your relationship with the tree ask it questions like the ones I wrote above.  Along with asking it, “is there anything I can do for you?”  Trees love it when you give back to them.  This can be as simple of projecting love to them or visualizing them healthy. 

If you are hearing for the first time, it might sound strange.  But, think about it, you have nothing to lose.  If anything, you have much to gain. 

I’d love to hear from you.  Let me know if you have ever meditated with a tree and what your experience was like?